You would think that it was more complicated to fall in love in the medieval era because of all the mores and codes, social standing, dowry and arranged marriages. Modern times allow for the freedom to choose who we love, who we bed and ultimately wed and grow old with. I got all these from reading all ye historical romances and fiction. But it seems to me that along with freedom, came complications. Why is it harder to fall in love now, than it was for people in the olden times?
Modern times made people more rational. You know, differentiating love, lust, infatuation, attraction, affection, desire. Name it. Knowing what the differences are does not help. Because you couldn’t label a strong emotion as love right away. You tend to mince your feelings and look at it until you get scared and then you run away before you get hurt. And you don’t believe in love at first sight because how they speak, act and treat people matters more than the initial attraction.
But it was so easy back then. In all the songs and stories of singers and bards, men and women fall by just the mere sight of each other. Which I don’t get. And I’m in denial of.
Why is it so hard?
But then at the back of mind, somebody said,
“Falling in love is easy, keeping it is hard, but moving on after it all falls apart is the hardest.'”
Again, what do I know of these things?
I read too much fiction.
But I’m good at over thinking.